How to Tell My Boyfriend I’m Pregnant: A Guide for Women Facing an Unexpected Pregnancy

Taking a positive pregnancy test can bring a mix of emotions—especially if it was unexpected. If you’re worried about how your boyfriend will react or fear that he may pressure you into a decision you’re not comfortable with, you are not alone.

This conversation is an important step, and you deserve to approach it with confidence and support.

Here are some steps to help you navigate breaking the news of your pregnancy to your boyfriend:

Take Time to Process Your Feelings About Being Pregnant

Before talking to your boyfriend, take a moment to process your emotions. What are your thoughts and feelings about the pregnancy? Are you leaning toward parenting, adoption, or abortion? Understanding where you stand can help you approach the conversation with clarity.
 
Choose the Right Time and Place to Tell Him You Are Pregnant
 
Pick a setting where you both can talk without distractions. A private, calm environment is ideal. Avoid bringing up the conversation in the heat of an argument or when either of you is stressed or distracted.
 
Be Honest and Direct with Your Boyfriend 
 
You don’t have to have everything figured out before sharing the news. A simple, honest approach can be best: “I need to talk to you about something important. I just found out I’m pregnant.” This opens the door for discussion while allowing space for both of your emotions.
 
Prepare for Different Reactions to Your Pregnancy 
 
Your boyfriend may be shocked, upset, supportive, or unsure about the pregnancy. Give him time to process his emotions just as you needed time for your own. If he reacts negatively at first, that doesn’t mean he won’t come around with time.
 
Stand Firm in Your Decisions Regarding the Pregnancy
 
If you feel pressured to make a decision that doesn’t align with your values or feelings, remember that this is your pregnancy and your future. No one—not even your boyfriend—has the right to force you into a choice. Seek support from trusted friends, family, or a pregnancy center.
 
Seek Outside Support
 
You don’t have to face this alone. If you feel uncertain or need guidance, our pregnancy resource center offers free, confidential support, and judgement free support. Talking to someone who understands can help you feel empowered in your decision.
 
Know That You Are Not Alone
 
No matter how your boyfriend reacts, you are not alone. There are people who care about you and want to help. If you need someone to talk to, reach out to us—we’re here to support you every step of the way.
 
If you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy and need guidance, contact us today. We offer free pregnancy tests, ultrasounds, and a compassionate space to talk through your options.