How to Support a Friend Facing an Unexpected Pregnancy

When a friend confides in you about an unexpected pregnancy, it’s natural to feel unsure about how to respond. Your words and actions can make a significant impact during this time.

She may be feeling overwhelmed, scared, or uncertain about what to do next. The most important thing you can do is offer support without judgment.

Here’s how you can be there for a friend who is dealing with unplanned pregnancy.
 
Listen Without Judgment 
One of the best things you can do is simply listen. Let your friend share her thoughts and feelings without interrupting or offering immediate advice. Avoid reacting with shock or judgment—she needs a safe space to express herself.
 
Offer Emotional Support 
An unexpected pregnancy can bring a wave of emotions, from fear to excitement. Reassure her that she’s not alone and that you’ll be there for her no matter what. It's ok if you don’t know what to say, sometimes just being present is enough.

Help Her Explore Her Pregnancy Options 
Your friend may feel pressured by others to make a quick decision. Encourage her to take the time she needs to consider all of her options—parenting, adoption, or abortion. Remind her that this is her choice, and she deserves to make an informed decision that she’s comfortable with.

Connect Her with Resources for an Unexpected Pregnancy
There are many resources available to support women facing unexpected pregnancies. Our pregnancy resource center offers free pregnancy tests, ultrasounds, pregnancy options support, and material support to help her navigate this journey. Encourage her to reach out for professional guidance in a non-judgmental environment.

Avoid Pressuring Her to Make a Pregnancy Decision
Even if you have strong personal opinions about pregnancy options, remember that this is her decision to make. Instead of trying to influence her choice, focus on empowering her with support and information.

Offer Practical Help 
Depending on her situation, your friend may need practical support. Offer to go with her to appointments, help her find local resources, or assist with daily tasks. Small acts of kindness can make a big difference.

Encourage Her to Seek Support from Trusted People 
Facing an unexpected pregnancy can feel isolating. Encourage her to talk to a trusted family member, mentor, pastor, or counselor who can provide additional guidance and support.

Remind Her That She’s Not Alone 
No matter what, your friend should know she doesn’t have to face this situation by herself. Our pregnancy resource center is here to provide the support and resources she needs to make an informed and confident decision. If she’s ready to talk, we’re here to help.

If you or someone you know is facing an unexpected pregnancy, reach out to us today to make an appointment. We offer free, confidential services to support women in making the best decision for their future.